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18th September, 2008
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Please Tell Me This is Post-op Depression
Yesterday evening, the_local_echo told me something about work which, while upsetting, was very far from the end of the world. My reaction seems to have surprised me, in that I've responded by falling into a severe depression. I'm curled up in bed with my laptop, have spent much of the day crying, and feel like I can't cope and just want the world to go away.

This isn't like me; I really don't get like this. It seems I have got some people so worried that I've needed to reassure them that, no, I'm not feeling suicidal (and I'm not). I do feel utterly, utterly wretched right now though. I know this is upsetting Sylvia too.

I'm hoping this is just an extreme emotional reaction to recent surgery, and that it will pass soon. If not, I may end up having to talk to my GP about anti-depressants, something I've thus far managed to avoid in my life.

Does anyone have chocolate, and a hug?

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From:angua
Date:18th September, 2008 02:38 pm (UTC)
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*hugs*

It's more than likely just an emotional reaction to the surgery that's caught you on the hop.
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From:zoefruitcake
Date:18th September, 2008 02:40 pm (UTC)
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I offer icon chocolate and hugs. Have some tea too, it can only help.

As I understand it general anaesthetic really messes with everything, so it probably is something post-op. Try and get out for some fresh air and a bit of a walk, if at all possible, it can only help. Tomorrow is another day, and hopefully it will be a brighter one x x x
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From:auntysarah
Date:18th September, 2008 02:43 pm (UTC)
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I shall put some clothes on and go and get Dairy Milk, I think. Yes.
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From:cyberspice
Date:18th September, 2008 03:42 pm (UTC)
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A good idea.
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From:techiebabe
Date:18th September, 2008 02:41 pm (UTC)
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*passes out choccie biccies and mugs of tea*

Sorry to hear that :( I don't know what to suggest cos hearing about how I get bouts of depression isn't going to help you! I have been on anti depressants though and I would say they should be a last resort... give it time, if you can? Try all your usual cheering tactics, and go easy on yourself - no guilt over it! - and see how you are in a few days?

*crosses fingers for you*
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From:asknosecrets
Date:18th September, 2008 02:41 pm (UTC)
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I would guess a reaction to the physical and mental stress of the op, plus the shiny drugs.

*Passes over M&Ms and cuddles* You look after yourself (and let Sylvia look after you too, don't make me have to get my doctor's coat!).
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From:phonemonkey
Date:18th September, 2008 02:44 pm (UTC)
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*hugs*
*chocolate*
*tea with valium chaser*


If you've only been crying since yesterday evening, that isn't a depression, it's a momentary wallow, and you're going to come out the other side just fine.
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From:beckyc
Date:18th September, 2008 02:59 pm (UTC)
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Oh no, much sympathy for your current feelings. As you say, the op really could have knocked you sideways, and that sort of thing can easily make you more emotional (or it could me, anyway). Do you have some good mood-lifting methods? (I, personally, find beating up a punchbag invigorating, but that isn't for everyone)

I'm trying to mentally send you some of my stash of dark chocolate, but it isn't transmitting properly...
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From:_moggy_
Date:18th September, 2008 02:59 pm (UTC)
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I'm sorry you're feeling low, but I'm sure it is just because of the surgery and you'll be back to normal very soon.
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From:woodpijn
Date:18th September, 2008 03:00 pm (UTC)
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*hugs*

Look after yourself. Rest. Recover from the op. Be "lazy" and "selfish", but without thinking those are bad things. And put stuff on hold for a day or two until you feel better - including analysing how you feel. I.e. don't think "Argh, I feel awful, am I depressed, am I going to feel like this forever, argh, doooom"; think "Argh, I feel awful" and leave it at that. Analysing it is something you can afford to put off for a bit, like (I hope) you're doing with other tasks such as household chores.

I hope you feel better soon.

BTW, what's the bad thing at work? Is it none of my business and just relating to Sylvia, or does it affect me too?
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From:auntysarah
Date:18th September, 2008 03:29 pm (UTC)
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Thanks, that sounds like really good advice.

BTW, what's the bad thing at work? Is it none of my business and just relating to Sylvia, or does it affect me too?

It's just a personal thing about her schedules, something we were talking about.
From:Dave Holland [org.uk]
Date:18th September, 2008 03:20 pm (UTC)
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Feeling depressed is apparently common after a general anaesthetic. I know that J (aged 8) was very up-and-down for a week or so after his op; another friend says the effects may persist for several months.

I hope that's a bit reassuring, at least. Chocolate can only help. :-)
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From:dreamalynn
Date:18th September, 2008 03:28 pm (UTC)
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General anesthesia can take an emotional toll on us, they don't talk about that too much, but there's a lot of anecdote about people being very emotionally friable in the period while the drugs are still working their way out of the system.

Take it easy on yourself. Stay well hydrated, relax, sleep when you can.

*offers many chocolate bars and hugs from across the sea*
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From:cyberspice
Date:18th September, 2008 03:41 pm (UTC)
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Lots of chocolate and lots of hugs dear.
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From:nicollegurrl
Date:18th September, 2008 03:57 pm (UTC)
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:-(

* hugs *

* choco's *
From:linamishima
Date:18th September, 2008 04:14 pm (UTC)
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Many many hugs and fusses from here, and I second woodpijn's advice! :)
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From:fyremane
Date:18th September, 2008 04:15 pm (UTC)
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*HUG*

Cause the world needs hugs!
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From:marnanel
Date:18th September, 2008 04:26 pm (UTC)
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I wish I had chocolate here, but I have spaghetti and chicken which is quite nice. Also tictacs. And you know whenever you want hugs you can come and find me. *hugs*
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From:alicephilippa
Date:18th September, 2008 04:47 pm (UTC)
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*lots of hugs*

Lots of choklit as well.

Take it easy hun
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From:capybyra
Date:18th September, 2008 06:55 pm (UTC)

The combination of drugs and basic bodily trauma itself can do it.

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So just relax and know it all will get better in a short time. And do continue judicious avoidance of psych drugs. Too many folks I know wind up screwed waay worse from them. the tiny % that really have an inescapable need of suchlike? Usually they are quite nonfunctional absent the use of some drug or other. Which is something mountain climbers rarely are:>
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From:kajyann12
Date:18th September, 2008 07:28 pm (UTC)
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As someone who has had a lot of surgery, and has suffered a lot with depression afterwards - I can tell you its almost certainly to do with the anaesthetic. It can take 3-4 days to get out of your system - and a lowering of mood is extremely common, if not inevitable. Go easy on your self for a few days - don't rush to get drugs, necessarily - as it is more than likely your mood will improve on its own. If it doesn't, and you have to have meds, its no big deal, honestly.

thinking of you ~hugs~
kaj
xxx
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From:fragglechick
Date:18th September, 2008 08:02 pm (UTC)
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For you? Always.

xxx
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From:rozk
Date:18th September, 2008 08:33 pm (UTC)
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When I hug you, you stay HUGGED!
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From:jessie_c
Date:18th September, 2008 08:53 pm (UTC)

Chocolate and a hug?

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From:leahs_whisper
Date:18th September, 2008 09:01 pm (UTC)
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have a *hug* and lots of chocolate. A little bit of indulgance of comfort food won't hurt, but will make you feel a hell of a lot better
From:scorpionflail
Date:18th September, 2008 09:04 pm (UTC)
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*hugs*

We've got plenty of chocolate, I think we'd have to deliver it in biohazard gear though - everyone here is sick atm.

Echoing others here, this does sound like a post-op thing, roll with it, look after yourself, get some decent fresh air/outside if possible and see how things look in a few days.

be safe :).
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From:whirlwitch
Date:18th September, 2008 09:11 pm (UTC)
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I have Smarties, but I can't figure out how to get them to you. I shall ask my genius wife to invent an ethernet chocolate-transferring system, and then we will be rich, and I can transfer chocolate to anyone I want and I get to decide whether the first thing I want is a llama or a horse.

But I've got hugsesssss. I send (((Big Pointy-Hatted Witch Hugs))) They are good.



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From:1ngi
Date:18th September, 2008 09:27 pm (UTC)
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Aww sweetie - it's just a post-op low. It will pass, treat yourself gently for the next couple of weeks and don't expect too much from yourself.

*hug*
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From:earwigmc
Date:18th September, 2008 09:38 pm (UTC)
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i can't tell you it is for sure, but i experienced very similar recently - a couple of weeks of depression symptomology following recent (minor) surgery. i atributed it to GA, drugs, hospitals, pain, immobility, emotioanl/psyhcological associations/memory.... and i made sure i ate chocolate everyday! my need for chocolate seems ot be waning.
chocolate and hug both avaialble here. sorry i'm not fit to travel atm...
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From:wiriamu
Date:18th September, 2008 09:41 pm (UTC)
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*hugs*
I'd send you chocolate...but I'm on the other side of the pond, so it'd be melted by the time it got there...
*hugs again?*
From:squigglefish
Date:18th September, 2008 10:02 pm (UTC)
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Buckets more hugs and chocolate-wishes from here, too :)

All injuries, illness, and surgery tends to result in this to varying degrees. Sometimes people get lucky, or the extent of things means dealing with it takes over, however.

Plus, you've had your head played with. The head never really likes that, and seems to go into a bit of a sulk afterwards :P
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From:michaeltgo
Date:18th September, 2008 10:57 pm (UTC)
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big hug and a box of Belgian,
wish you well soonest

XXX Michal
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From:hippieg2o
Date:18th September, 2008 11:01 pm (UTC)
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Sounds like a standard reaction to anisthtic Please excuse the crud spelling of that
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From:lisaquestions
Date:18th September, 2008 11:37 pm (UTC)
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I have chocolate and a hug for you.

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From:flexibeast
Date:19th September, 2008 06:49 am (UTC)
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*hugs*

Any preference on the choccie? :-)
From:cjp39
Date:20th September, 2008 07:33 pm (UTC)
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"Do not operate body for at least 96 hours after general anaesthetic..."

I went on general for my appendectomy. Afterward, I swear I got hemisphere cross-talk à la A Scanner Darkly; I also got a healthy dose of paranoia. The kind folk at the hospital hadn't even told me there would be side-effects.

*hugs, belatedly*
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From:pinkdormouse
Date:20th September, 2008 08:38 pm (UTC)
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Belated HUGS
From:(Anonymous)
Date:24th September, 2008 12:55 pm (UTC)

Sincere Condolences

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Hi Sarah,
I can safely say after having a similar operation, instead of polyps I had cartilage removed that was blocking my nasal passages and can definitely assure you that the general anaesthetic can have quite nasty side effects as you seem to be having. I can also emphasise with having the packing taken out, as I had bone removed and my nose was already very sore the nurse simply put a bit of saline solution up each nostril and as with you said 1,2,3 and then pulled, each time it felt like Mike Tyson punching you in the nose!! So big hugs for you!!!! May I also introduce myself as a previous friend/work colleague of Zoe (zoeimogen) in her pre-transformation period. I originally stumbled on her LJ and was fascinated and then as you are friends I avidly read your journal too! (hope you don't mind!!) Ask Zoe if she remembers a big Northern Biker fellow from Digex and say "Hi" if she does (I must email her sometime!!!!) Take care and all will be ok soon (if not already).
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