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On Acceptance - Sarah, The Bringer of Tea
31st December, 2008
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On Acceptance
On Sunday, the_local_echo and I drove over to see my mother and step-father for a post-Christmas lunch. Unfortunately I was just getting the worst of the symptoms of the cold from hell, so I spent much of the afternoon there asleep. Possibly partially as a result, I think my mother was being especially maternal, in the way she's always done when I'm ill.

However, I did notice later in the evening when my stepbrother and his wife came over and introduced me to my new niece (she is so lovely!), that my mother was talking about myself and my brother as babies, and effortlessly getting the pronouns right.

We'd planned to spend the night and leave the next morning. I felt too rough to leave straight away after a restless night, and ended up having a bath there. While I was in the bath, my mother walked into the bathroom and, for the first time, saw me naked with a female body. She didn't miss a beat.

I think she's really accepted, and got used to, the idea that she has a daughter. It feels good.

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Date:31st December, 2008 02:47 am (UTC)
That's lovely, Sarah. And lovely for her too.
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Date:31st December, 2008 02:56 am (UTC)
Yay! So glad to hear you had such a nice after-Christmas with your mum (baring your illness)...

In fact, serious kudos to her on the childhood pronouning, that's a tough one to manage even for other trans people talking about someone they knew pretransition. The fact she managed show that she's making an effort and is really invested in getting it right.

[User Picture]
Date:31st December, 2008 09:45 am (UTC)
What is the correct pronouning, out of interest?
Date:31st December, 2008 03:51 am (UTC)
That must be an amazing feeling!
[User Picture]
Date:31st December, 2008 04:40 am (UTC)
That is really nice!
[User Picture]
Date:31st December, 2008 06:15 am (UTC)
Wow, that sounds really good.
Date:31st December, 2008 06:21 am (UTC)
That's kinda cool :) I'm glad she's got used to it all.

Mind you, you must have been taken aback when she barged in on you! :)
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Date:31st December, 2008 10:16 am (UTC)
I did rather have an, "argh! Hide tits! Hide tits!" moment which is strange because:

a) I'm an exhibitionist

b) she gave birth to me
[User Picture]
Date:31st December, 2008 07:04 am (UTC)
This is nice. :)
[User Picture]
Date:31st December, 2008 07:05 am (UTC)

xmas with famly

It great news it hard to get famly to except your difrent in any way whith me its my polly amery but so far only one famly has not exceped the situation and has band two of us from visiting.huggs
[User Picture]
Date:31st December, 2008 07:38 am (UTC)
go your mum! :0)
[User Picture]
Date:31st December, 2008 07:42 am (UTC)
Well that's optimistic! Hoping it sticks.
[User Picture]
Date:31st December, 2008 08:07 am (UTC)
Most excellent. :)
Date:31st December, 2008 08:27 am (UTC)
Aww! That's a really nice thing to hear. Sorry about your cold though. Glad to hear about the other good news too. Hope you peeps have a nice new year holiday :o)
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Date:31st December, 2008 10:04 am (UTC)
That's lovely :-) I'm glad it went well.

I remember when my parents started getting it right. And for as much as I complain about them they've been brilliant in that respect.

The best thing about your new niece is that she will never know anything than Aunty Sarah. My two nieces are now of an age they're getting talkative and its Aunty Mel this and Aunty Mel that. Its lovely. I am so fond of them...
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Date:31st December, 2008 10:52 am (UTC)
wow, sounds great except for the bug that got you down.
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Date:31st December, 2008 11:15 am (UTC)
Oh Sarah! That is so wonderful. Sometimes it seems such a small thing for us to be granted our femininity by others, but it's really not, especially by our mum. That she got all the pronouns right, that she saw and accepted the female you in the flesh (after seeing you all those years the "other" way). That has to do wonderful things for how you feel.

I really liked your mum when I met her. Now I think she's simply the bestest mum in the world (save perhaps Zoe's.. though I haven't met her).
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